Years ago, when I was a shiny new leader, I had an employee I thought the world of. Let’s call her Lisa. Lisa was very bright, very funny, and excellent at her job. I loved having her on my team. Two or three years into her tenure, the leader of another department asked me if he could offer Lisa a management position on his team. I said no. Yup. No. I denied someone I genuinely liked and respected a chance to grow in her career. Why did I do such a shitty thing? Well, in my m